Comments on: Back on the application dreadmill http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/ Everyone knows diaries are full of crap. Tue, 15 Dec 2009 08:41:23 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: anaj http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4189 anaj Tue, 25 Sep 2007 13:15:49 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4189 Thanks for this rather enlightening digest on rage, anger and mayhem. Thanks for this rather enlightening digest on rage, anger and mayhem.

]]> By: anaj http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4188 anaj Tue, 25 Sep 2007 12:52:45 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4188 I couldn't agree more with your wise words, Void. Let the anger go. Don't let it hold on to you. I couldn’t agree more with your wise words, Void.

Let the anger go. Don’t let it hold on to you.

]]> By: anaj http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4184 anaj Tue, 25 Sep 2007 11:40:59 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4184 Om shanti, baheen! Om shanti, baheen!

]]> By: lenina http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4183 lenina Tue, 25 Sep 2007 11:38:32 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4183 it's funny that you mention your parents' fights. I don't remember my parents ever fighting, but there was a lot of suppressed hatred beneath the surface. They divorced when I was 12. There was neither love nor hatred between them, just coldness and suppressed anger. Maybe that has influenced my own behaviour. Either way I quite stubbornly defend my angry and arrogant ways and will continue to do so, seeing that it saved me from turning the hatred against myself (which I practised frequently when I was younger). Anyhow, better get to work now :| it’s funny that you mention your parents’ fights. I don’t remember my parents ever fighting, but there was a lot of suppressed hatred beneath the surface. They divorced when I was 12. There was neither love nor hatred between them, just coldness and suppressed anger.

Maybe that has influenced my own behaviour. Either way I quite stubbornly defend my angry and arrogant ways and will continue to do so, seeing that it saved me from turning the hatred against myself (which I practised frequently when I was younger).

Anyhow, better get to work now :|

]]> By: anaj http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4180 anaj Tue, 25 Sep 2007 10:58:19 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4180 (there might be measures between anger and leaving him, but I really should shut up now - your department) I guess I do believe in kindness for kindness' sake. Whether this is to blame on my Christian upbringing, Friedrich Schiller's Letters upon the Æsthetic Education of Man (I'd like to think the latter - http://www.bartleby.com/32/501.html ) or just the fact that my parents' fights traumatized me when I was little :-) But it's certainly not a very Germanic trait, no it isn't. (there might be measures between anger and leaving him, but I really should shut up now – your department)

I guess I do believe in kindness for kindness’ sake. Whether this is to blame on my Christian upbringing, Friedrich Schiller’s Letters upon the Æsthetic Education of Man (I’d like to think the latter – http://www.bartleby.com/32/501.html ) or just the fact that my parents’ fights traumatized me when I was little :-)

But it’s certainly not a very Germanic trait, no it isn’t.

]]> By: lenina http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4179 lenina Tue, 25 Sep 2007 10:50:28 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4179 If I left him, I'd get rid of it! I don't believe in kindness for kindness' sake. I believe that anger is healthy and useful as long as it's channelled correctly (though I admit I haven't got the channelling quite worked out yet - ideally it needs channelling into exercise or creative stuff, neither of which I currently have time for - hence, I vent it on my blog). If I left him, I’d get rid of it!

I don’t believe in kindness for kindness’ sake. I believe that anger is healthy and useful as long as it’s channelled correctly (though I admit I haven’t got the channelling quite worked out yet – ideally it needs channelling into exercise or creative stuff, neither of which I currently have time for – hence, I vent it on my blog).

]]> By: anaj http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4178 anaj Tue, 25 Sep 2007 10:42:56 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4178 Dreadmill looks good to me :-) Dreadmill looks good to me :-)

]]> By: anaj http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4177 anaj Tue, 25 Sep 2007 10:40:30 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4177 It would be utterly misguided if I gave you any advice on how to go about this; but if I did, and in the blandest possible way, I'd say: Hey, that's definitely an issue that needs to be addressed. By which I mean: properly addressed, not temporarily settled by venting one's anger. Doesn't mean that you'd have to share my 'code of ethics', but believing in kindness for me also entails to not believe in anger. It would be utterly misguided if I gave you any advice on how to go about this; but if I did, and in the blandest possible way, I’d say: Hey, that’s definitely an issue that needs to be addressed. By which I mean: properly addressed, not temporarily settled by venting one’s anger.

Doesn’t mean that you’d have to share my ‘code of ethics’, but believing in kindness for me also entails to not believe in anger.

]]> By: lenina http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4176 lenina Tue, 25 Sep 2007 10:40:05 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4176 and it's treadmill, not dreadmill (unless this was a pun :evil: ) and it’s treadmill, not dreadmill (unless this was a pun :evil: )

]]> By: lenina http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4175 lenina Tue, 25 Sep 2007 10:33:24 +0000 http://anaj.wordpress.com/2007/09/25/back-on-the-application-dreadmill/#comment-4175 The problem is that you have to communicate your anger somehow. If I couldn't vent my anger on my blog, thus getting rid of it, I would have to act upon my feelings, i.e. leave my boyfriend. Slagging him off means I can get rid of my anger and all the shit that I have to put up with. Stuff that other people would probably not put up with BTW, but which I rarely talk about to anyone, not even on my blog. The problem is that you have to communicate your anger somehow. If I couldn’t vent my anger on my blog, thus getting rid of it, I would have to act upon my feelings, i.e. leave my boyfriend.

Slagging him off means I can get rid of my anger and all the shit that I have to put up with. Stuff that other people would probably not put up with BTW, but which I rarely talk about to anyone, not even on my blog.

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